Dating in 1970
These precautions seemed less important after the first few times a woman responded to these published invitations to meet.It turned out the men they were introduced to this way were no more or less dangerous than men encountered for the first time in a bar, or even men whom they met through the recommendation of a friend. (A somewhat older, recently divorced, woman told me she was sitting with her date at a fancy restaurant when he took out his teeth and put them in a wine glass.) Being pro-active, as I usually am, I encouraged men and women, too, to try dating this way, although, certainly, only after taking reasonable precautions.The advertisements in The Village Voice were different than those in the various Jewish newspapers and different, also, from those in the New York Magazine.Someone answering ads in one place might be replying to an invitation to engage in some sort of sex. Others were directed at more sober individuals who were thinking of getting married somewhere down the line.Similarly, during parts of the latter half of the 20 century, people once again began to use newspapers and magazines to make known their wishes to meet someone of the opposite sex.These small blurbs appeared in the personals section.
I lived at the Hall of Residence and helped make ends meet by working at the switchboard, (Believe it or not, there was such a thing as a switchboard.) I tried to connect a woman who wanted to reach one of the medical students. It would not be gallant of me to describe her; but I had a good time anyway! By the way, the men who advertised, or answered advertisements, had their own concerns.The social rules for dating change from one generation to the next.There was a time when a proper young man and woman could not speak to each other unless they had been formally introduced. On the other hand, I understand from my patients that it is considered bad manners now for young people to date someone who has previously dated one of their friends.In another time and place, matchmakers would have been called upon to make the necessary arrangements; but no such social institution existed here in this country.There was need for an organized way for young couples to meet for the first time. Way, way back in frontier days, men in the wilderness advertised in Eastern newspapers for a bride.